What ya need when ya need it

I don't believe in chance. I think everything happens for a reason and at a proper time in all our lives. For some years now I have been sort of on a spiritual quest. Partly by choice, partly by circumstance. I have been fortunate to encounter some very special people during my quest.

Although my beliefs may not be traditional in the same sense as organized religion, I have come to believe that we are all connected to the Great Spirit whether we choose to acknowledge it or not. Some of us are more open to the connection than others. By now you're saying to yourself, what the heck is she talking about. I'll just come out and say it. I do think some people have psychic abilities. No not me! Ok sure there are people out there who take advantage by preying upon the weak and scared but there are many more who share their gifts in a genuine desire to help the ones they come in contact with.

My path has been crossed by three such people over the years. The first was a lovely woman in Atlanta, who was bright and cheery and helped me through a very very difficult period. I was lost and feeling spiritually empty. She was able to help me reestablish my connection to Spirit through Buddhism and other lessons. She did tell me things that did come to pass and I was amazed. More recently before I left LA I was introduced to Simon. He'd met a friend of mine in a local eatery and we both tittered when he approached her out of the blue and said she would receive some money within a few days. Our response was "yeah right!". Well we wanted to know more when the money did arrive. Long story short, Simon opened up to me about some things I need to know and it has been very helpful while dealing with my dad's injury and recent passing.

The most recent encounter came one night when I was just surfing the net and had my Yahoo! messenger on. I received a message from a young lady regarding my writing. I was quite flattered since it is rare that women comment on my Yahoo! blog. Her name is Whisper Willow and we had a lovely chat. A few weeks later she also read for me. Although I'm usually not big on a long distance reading (I prefer a face to face reading so I can see if they are telling the truth or just guessing), I found it quite interesting. With no information I found that what she was telling me was very relevant to my situation.

Before you say I've finally gone bonkers look at it this way. Lots of us want to know if what we are doing in our lives is really working for us before we get to the finish line. I think sometimes we can get a head's up from people who bring us the information at the right time in our lives. Yes you should be wary of anyone who asks for huge sums of money or claims there's a curse on you. If they are asking more questions than giving information then by all means, walk out the door. Don't give them one red cent. That person doesn't have your best interests at heart. But you can connect with people who are truly interested in things that are for your greatest and highest good. If you are looking for such a person, I suggest you get in touch with Whisper Willow. Not only is she a good reader, she's a really nice person. I wouldn't put this in my blog if I didn't know it for myself. Whisper Willow has a site, http://www.kasamba.com/whisper-willow or http://www.myspace.com/psychicwhisperwillow. She is also accepting phone calls @ 262-728-2426.

Whether you contact Whisperwillow or someone else, be open minded. No it's not for everyone but you never know. I don't believe in fortune tellers but I do feel that sometimes we get what we need when we need it and not always from conventional places.

Living Out Loud!

To my dear friends I am the gypsy, bebopping around the planet unencumbered and carefree. I would love a "normal" life. You know what I mean. The husband-2.5 kids-min van- white picket fence kind of life. But for some reason it hasn't worked out that way for me. To the kids I work with I am just another big kid. To my friends with kids, I am Auntie Mame. Someday I'd like to be mom.

But for now I just celebrate my life. I've had my ups and downs (probably more than my fair share) but I know somewhere in the core of my being my day is coming. I will come out on top. There are days when I want to give up and throw in the towel. But there are many more days that I am so grateful for it all. The good, the bad, and the ugly.

I don't know where this path is taking me. Sometimes I feel it is a dark and lonely path. But something is telling me that when I come out, whereever it ends, it's going to be worth all the struggle and pain.

You can lead him to the chapel

...but you can’t make him marry you.

You know there are all kinds of statistics about getting married. Most of them will leave any woman over the age of 25 a sobbing mess hiding in a closet preparing for spinsterhood. Every year some relationship expert proposes to know the best way to get a guy to marry you by hook or by crook. To hell with all these number crunching statisticians and know it all experts, lets face reality.

Frankly I believe it is up to the guy to decide when he is ready to marry. There are no tricks to it, no way to convince him and truly no way to change his mind if he is not marriage minded already. You are only setting yourself up for a lot of frustration and hurt feelings if you try the ploys in most of these nonsensical bestsellers. When you are ready to march down the aisle, think with your head not you heart. Would you want to drag him kicking and screaming or have him come willingly?

Most guys are not as dumb as some of these relationship books will lead you to believe. He will be quite direct in his opinions about marriage. If he says he can’t see himself married ever, he clearly means it. Leaving bridal magazines laying around will not help the situation. Just because you feel he’s the one for you does not always guarantee he will feel the same. I remember a book that was popular in the 90’s that suggested that you not jump to take his calls. It said you should let his calls go unanswered a few times and then call back some days later. I think if you try that one, he will stop calling you and call someone else. One book I read recently suggested that you give him an ultimatum to prompt him to make a decision. It advised that you insist on being married by a certain time or you will leave him. I almost fell out of my chair laughing at that one. Most guys I know would open the door for you after hearing that.

If you want your “Big Day” with all the bells and whistles, then the solution is quite simple. Seek out guys who are ready to jump the broom with you. Believe me there are plenty of them out there. Don’t waste time with a guy who still thinks of himself as a playa. It doesn’t take 5 years to figure out he’s not ever going to get down on one knee. Too often we overlook Mr. Right for Mr. Good Time Charlie.

Hi, I'm back!

I had to take a little time off. I kept thinking I was doing ok but I was making a bad slide into a serious depression. I didn't want to admit that something was wrong. I just kept pretending that everything was ok. I had a lot of mixed feelings but ultimately I was just overwhelmed by everything going on in my life.

But I've decided I have to keep pushing forward no matter what. It doesn't do my any good to let the depression take over. It has paralyzed me before and I never want to go there again. So I'm fighting back with all my heart.

I'll catch up on my posts and I thank all those who wrote to say they enjoyed my perspective on things. Take care all.